“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is God’s gift, that’s why we call it the present”
— Joan Rivers
This is one of my favourite quotes comes from Joan Rivers. It is a good reminder to focus on today and appreciate what you have as you don’t know what might happen tomorrow.
Most of the time we rush around dealing with all our “have to’s” and worrying about our futures, forgetting that it is the moments we create today that really matter. Life is a precious gift and we waste so much time being busy and not paying attention to the little things that count. Think about it mornings are a mad rush for most people. In a lot of households it is spent getting the breakfast ready, shouting at the kids to get ready and then shooing them out the door so that they aren’t late for school. Barely saying goodbye as each one rushes to start their day. Even though rushed, these moments are precious and should be savoured as they can never be repeated.
When people talk of their regrets in life, it is seldom about making money or having material goods but rather they speak of not spending enough time with their family and friends, and not spending enough time appreciating all the good that was in their lives at the time. Even in bad times when they were struggling to make ends meet, they see the value of what they had at the time, like intimate dinners with their spouses or enjoying nights out with their friends.
Don’t wake up one day with regrets. Make sure that you treasure each day you have and all the good you are experiencing.
Hanging your hopes for happiness on a goal
We all have goals and dreams that we want to achieve in our lives and this is good. Goals give you direction and help you with your personal growth, however hanging your hopes for happiness on achieving a goal is risky business. Living with the frame of mind of “I will be happy when” or “Life will be great when” means that you could be postponing your happiness indefinitely.
You do not know what the future will bring nor can you control it. Expecting a future goal achievement to change your life and bring you the happiness you seek stops you from experiencing happiness right now. Imagine going through your life always waiting for happiness to happen but never truly experiencing it. This is what happens when you hang all your hopes for happiness on a goal.
Happiness is a state of being and you decide if you want to be happy or not. You don’t need to be a millionaire, have the perfect job or an honours degree to be happy. You just need to acknowledge and be great for all the good in your life. You have to learn to be present in each and every moment you experience so that you can truly appreciate what you have.
This means when your child is sitting at the breakfast table in the morning rambling on about the latest superhero she is infatuated with, really listen to her. Don’t let your mind wonder to all the things you need to do that day. Focus on her and your conversation. Enjoy the time you are spending with her after all in a blink of an eye she will be grown up and living her own life. Make each moment you have with her count.
No matter what you do, always be present in that moment. Even if you are just standing at the kitchen sink enjoying a cup of coffee. Look outside and appreciate the beauty that surrounds you from the birds chirping in the trees, to the sunlight streaming in. Stop worrying about the future so much. It will only make you stressed and anxious.
You can invite happiness into your life each and everyday if you choose to. Why wait for it to happen tomorrow or sometime in the future? Be present and be grateful for all the good that is in your life right now even though life may not be perfect. Remember that life is made up of a series of moments and it is how you choose to experience each of these moments that determine how fulfilling and wonderful your life is.